From the moment we’re born and as we grow up, society pins labels on us. The first one is usually boy or girl. After this, dependent on how we look, our personality and how we act, others are tacked on. For example, pretty, cute, naughty, active, quiet, tomboy, girlie, fat, loud etc.
Labels can be positive or negative and are often expressed as words, facial expressions, body language or behaviours. When labels are negative, they will have a dramatic impact on our self-esteem and mental health.
As well as other people’s and society’s labels, we often give ourselves labels. Some positive, others negative. Examples of negative labels may be, poor writer, not good enough to be published, stupid, hopeless Christian, incompetent parent, unlovable… The list goes on.
We label ourselves about every area of our life—our perception of being a child, a parent, a worker, a writer, a Christian and anything else we do.
- How do you see yourself?
- What type of labels do you carry?
As Christians, to not be weighed down by society’s labels, we must know how God sees us. For this, we look to the Bible and find that God sees us as his beloved children, created in his image, with inherent worth—more valuable than gold. We are precious and cherished, and fearfully and wonderfully made.
Replacing Negatives with Positives
There are times in the past when I've been negatively affected by labels, but with God's help, labels don't have to define me or you. In my book Be Weirdly Wonderful: Embrace Your Differences, I share my own story and some tools to help you lead your best life. If negative labels are affecting your self-esteem and self-confidence, bringing you down and stopping you from living your best life, you might like to try this practical activity that I mention in the book.
- Write a list of your negative labels on a piece of paper or write a letter to your younger self stating the labels. (When writing the letter, tell your younger self that those labels which were said to hurt you were lies and you’re not going to accept them anymore.) If you want to, you could also write a letter to a specific person who gave you the negative labels.
- Next is to actually burn the list or letters you write. Yes, put a match or a lighter to them or place them in a bonfire and watch the flames vaporise those labels. They’re gone. (I have done this a few times now and I have found it to be very cleansing.) If burning isn’t your thing, then you could tear them up into tiny bits and send them off in the wind or float them down a creek or out in the ocean. As a Christian, you could nail them onto a wooden cross or pin/glue them on a picture of the cross. The healing is in the process of letting the labels physically go.
- Now you’re going to replace the negative labels with positive words. To do this, take out a fresh piece of paper and list all the great things about yourself. For example, strong, funny, quirky, pretty. The Bible is full of positive labels of who God sees you as. These are some examples: I am strong and courageous, I am precious, I am God’s child, I am loved. I am forgiven. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. For this activity you could also write out bible verses that speak to you.
- Then write down the things you’re good at, how the people who love you see you and what you like about yourself. If you’re having trouble, ask trusted loved ones and friends for how they see you. And remember, the fact that you’re alive means that you’re meant to be here. You are meant to impact the world in a positive way, whether big or small.
- Last, display them in some way. You could write the positive labels on post-it notes and stick them on your mirror or around the house where you’ll constantly see them. If you like art and craft, you could draw, scrapbook, collage, decorate the page or make your new labels into a painting. You could even make a bookmark, a fridge magnet or a picture to go in a frame. This step is crucial for two reasons. One, it celebrates how wonderful you are and two, you’ll see the positive labels day after day. When you see them regularly, over time they will take root in your mind and you’re more likely to believe them.
Character Arcs and the Hero's Journey
When we give our life to Jesus, we become a new creation and the old passes away (2 Corinthians 5:17). With the help of the Holy Spirit we begin to develop the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5)—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. These are all positive labels.
As time goes by, and we learn what behaviours we’re exhibiting that don’t please God, we make a concerted effort to cease these. In most Christians, particularly those who have become Christians as adults, there is a character arc—a transformation.
When we write, we want our protagonist (main character) to have a character arc too. (Our other characters can also have character arcs.)
The character arc is a measure of how a character changes over time. It can be internal or external leading to personal growth or decline.
Why do we need character arcs in our stories?
In a story, readers want to see a character fail or succeed. They want to see characters face consequences for bad deeds, or rewards for doing the right thing. And they want to see conflict —it is conflict that keeps the story growing in tension until the climax is reached.
There are different types of character arcs but the primary types are:
1) Transformational arc—character arcs that follow drastic and significant changes
2) Positive Change arc—characters evolve positively, overcoming flaws and changes
3) Negative Change arc—characters undergo a negative transformation succumbing to flaws or destructive paths
4) Flat arc—characters remain relatively unchanged, imparting stability or providing a contrast to dynamic counterparts.
Within the transformational character arc we could place the most known story structure and character arc, called the Hero’s Journey, created by Joseph Campbell.
The Hero’s Journey unfolds in 12 distinct steps, commencing with the protagonist’s ordinary world, a call to adventure, and the crossing of a threshold into the unknown. Challenges, mentors, and ordeals follow, leading to a transformative crisis. The triumphant return from this brings newfound wisdom which they bring back into their ordinary world. This story structure is seen in myths and movies such as Star Wars.
Think about a story you know well. What type of labels or traits does the protagonist have in the beginning? Then, what type of labels or traits do they exhibit at the end? Do they go from devious to honest? Do they go from murderer to saint? Are there characters in the story that have negative change or flat arcs?
Now, think about your latest piece of writing.
- What labels have you given your protagonist?
- What is their character arc? (Which of the 4 primary types is it?)
- Is there a transformation?
- How could you improve the character arc?
- Are you able to add more obstacles or incidents to make the transformation more epic?
- Are you able to give more labels or traits to the antagonist or other characters to make them more interesting?
- And finally, does your story structure help or hinder the character arc? How could you make it better?
And finally, when we’re writing a story, always give thought to the characters’ traits and their character arcs. Our writing will be so much better when we do.
God bless.
Author Bio
Jenny Woolsey, M.Ed. (Hons), is a Christian author, speaker, potter and carer. She was born with a facial difference and lives with low vision. Jenny is an Amazon best-seller and has published eight middle grade/YA novels and a personal development book, Be Weirdly Wonderful! Embrace your Differences. Her short stories are published in 23 anthologies. Jenny volunteers in the community and mentors at the Queensland Writers Centre.
Photo Credits
Featured photo by Anna Saveleva on Unsplash; Hero's Journey diagram from Imagine Forest; book cover and author pic supplied by the author.
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