This year, as many of you know, I made the decision not to do any writing or speaking/promoting. Of course I am writing, because not writing would be like not breathing, but I find I am writing a little differently now days.
I am writing
assignments, curriculum, learning stories and more ‘job related’ things but
still it’s writing!
I have just
started writing encouragements for Educators within the same service as me.
Funny, I guess that I have come a full circle back to writing encouragements;
back to my writing niche!
At our last Educator
meeting, I shared about setting business and personal boundaries.
I have the
habit of allowing my personal boundary lines to loosen and I find myself doing
too much. Sometimes I think I do so much out of love, but as I read in the book
if my ‘doing’ is causing me to feel overwhelmed and depressed then I am not
motivated by love.
Why we don't
set boundaries? Fear is a reason; fear we will hurt someone if we say no; fear
we will be letting people down; fear of abandonment, rejection or shame; fear
of being seen as selfish; fear of being seen as non-spiritual; fear of someone
else's anger. Guilt is another big reason we don't set boundaries for
reason for me, is that I feel that people will like me and respect me more if I
am 'doing'. I need to constantly remind myself that I am a woman of worth
simply because I am a child of God. Anything I 'do' for His kingdom is great
but not mandatory!
I am happy
to say that I have been doing so much better in this area. At the beginning of
the year I wrote a list of all the things that I needed to and wanted to commit
to this year. Now when asked if I can do ‘extra’ I tell the person I’ll get
back to them. I check my list, pray, speak to hubby and then with a clear head
(and conscience) I can give my answer.
you? Are you the kind of person who easily says ‘no’ to protect your boundaries
or do you say ‘yes’ and wear yourself out?!
If you are
feeling overloaded, perhaps you need to sit down and write your own boundary
list with the intention to stick to it!