As I am working on my book, Fat Girls Can Dance, I am looking at a whole range of personal development concepts. One of these is the whole issue of self-acceptance based on uniqueness. We know that we are unique, but how can that help us to live happier, healthier and more connected lives?
Firstly, we are unique because our Creator designed us to have 97% in common with other human beings, but 3% of our DNA uniquely defining who we will be - our hair colour, eye colour, skin tone, voice pitch, size of body, personality etc.
The Psalmist David puts it like this... "You knit me together in my mother's womb..." (Psalm 139:13)
God intimately became entangled with the crafting of each person.
Jeremiah says, "Before I was born you knew me." (Jeremiah 1:5)
And David goes on to say, "Such knowledge is to wonderful for me", referring to the intimate knowledge that God has of each of us. (Psalm 139:6)
So this got me thinking about the struggle most people have with loving themselves. The struggle of not comparing themselves to others and finding themselves lacking. What does an individual need to know about themselves that will set them free from self-doubt and self-rejection? I believe it is an understanding of how their loving Creator has taken consideration for them as an individual.
Secondly, we all have a unique bar code that God gave us at birth, our fingerprint, which is like a sign to say, 'Hey, I'm an original!'
No two fingerprints are the same. God saw fit to intimately desire to imprint himself on each of us in a unique way.
The complexity of our body systems, our personality traits and our brain's capacity is mind boggling. Everything about how we are created screams of a loving Creator, intimately acquainted with even 'the hairs on our head', numbering them. (Matthew 10:30)
Then this started me down the pathway of the concept of 'normal' and 'perfect'. What is 'normal' and what is 'perfect'?
Well, I have concluded that 'normal' is actually a myth, because for their to be a norm you must be comparing like with like and finding anomalies and on the grounds of uniqueness there are no two humans completely alike. There may be similarities, as in the case with identical twins, but there are just as many anomalies!
In the area of perfection, this is also relative. I am perfectly me. I may not behave in a way that others think is perfect, but it is perfectly me. So if I stop the comparisons, the playing to the expectations of the crowd and really love and accept who I am in this moment, then I can embrace this concept of perfection.
And if I add to that what Jesus says about perfection, that He has made everyone perfect, then why would I need to be on my own case about chasing some mysterious state that I have no hope of achieving, when seriously all I need to do is to accept what Christ has done for me?
Hebrews 10:8 says, "He has perfected forever those who are being sanctified." That means you and I, if we are believers.
So if I am unique, perfectly me and normal for me, how much better is my life going to be when I really allow that truth to settle inside me and I embrace the huge love gift of God's acceptance in my life? Then I can truly say and believe, "I am enough. I have enough. I do enough."
How many people are chasing the elusive state of perfection or feeling like they are not normal, trying to fit into something that no-one can even define? Imagine if they could believe that in this moment there is nothing they have to do to be acceptable, that they are actually 100% okay. That is what real grace and unconditional love does for a person - it sticks their feet on a solid foundation based on love and grace. That's what the prodigal son's Dad modelled when he returned home - complete acceptance and grace. Change, if required, then flows out naturally.
So, I guess I just wanted to remind you that you are perfect, normal and unique. Perfectly loved by a creator who knows you intimately and desires to have a relationship with you every moment of every day. Now that is pretty cool, don't you think?
About Author: Hayley Solich is the Editor of Golden Pen For Christian Women's Magazine and Golden Pen Magazine, a published author and business mentor. Hayley works with individuals to help them self publish their books by providing editing and design services. http://christianwomenmagazine.com or www.hayleysolich.com.